Coparenting with a high conflict person

November 5, 2023by Family Court Corner0

Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, even under the best of circumstances. But when you find yourself co-parenting with a high-conflict person, it can feel like an uphill battle every step of the way. The constant disagreements, power struggles, and tension can take a toll on both you and your children. However, with patience, understanding, and some effective strategies, it is possible to navigate co-parenting with a high-conflict person and create a more peaceful and stable environment for everyone involved. 

First and foremost, it’s important to recognize that co-parenting with a high-conflict person requires a different approach. Trying to reason, negotiate, or engage in arguments with them may only escalate the conflicts further. Instead, focus on managing your own reactions and emotions, and establish clear boundaries to protect yourself and your children. 

One of the most effective strategies for co-parenting with a high-conflict person is to communicate in a calm and business-like manner. Keep your communication brief, to the point, and focused on the well-being of your children. Avoid getting drawn into personal attacks or engaging in blame games. Stick to facts and avoid emotional triggers that may reignite conflicts. 

Setting clear and consistent boundaries is essential when co-parenting with a high-conflict person. This includes only engaging in necessary communication regarding the children, and only in writing so there is a clear history when disagreements arise that may need court intervention. Clearly outline these boundaries and make sure both parties are aware of them. By having a structured and predictable co-parenting plan in place, you can help minimize conflicts and create a more stable environment for your children. 

Another important aspect of co-parenting with a high-conflict person is finding ways to manage your own stress and emotions. High-conflict individuals often thrive on chaos and drama, so it’s crucial to prioritize self-care and seek support when needed. You might want to explore therapy or counseling as a valuable resource for addressing the challenges and processing your emotions. A knowledgeable divorce coach can help keep your emotions in check when conflict is at a peak, and help you refocus on the big picture. Surround yourself with a solid support system of friends and family who can offer guidance and understanding during difficult times. 

When co-parenting with a high-conflict person, it’s important to keep the focus on the well-being of your children. Resist the temptation to involve them in adult conflicts or use them as messengers between you and your co-parent. Shield them from unnecessary stress and conflict by providing a safe and nurturing environment in both households. 

There are situations where it becomes essential to consider professional assistance through lawyers, mediation or family court when co-parenting with a high-conflict individual. These interventions are often necessary when communication breaks down between coparents, and can lead to stronger agreements or court orders to keep both parties accountable to doing what is best for the children.  

Remember, co-parenting with a high-conflict person is a challenging process that requires patience, resilience, and self-care. While it may present challenges, prioritizing your children’s welfare, establishing firm boundaries, and reaching out for assistance when necessary can help you cultivate a calmer and more stable co-parenting atmosphere. Ultimately, your children deserve to grow up in a loving, supportive, and conflict-free atmosphere, and by working towards that goal, you can provide them with the best possible foundation for their future. 

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